Right now I am researching new cars and thought it would be hard to resist the ‘premium’ cars, beautiful lines, colors and all the luxurious extras inside. I have always wanted a luxury car and thought some day. Well some day is here.
As I do with most big expenditures or tasks, I mull over the details and then put my thoughts in writing; both the positives and negatives. I have to say that luxury car with the high price tag is not even a consideration. Not even a want at this time. Why? Bigger, fancier, and more expensive doesn’t necessarily mean better!
I recommend you approach your wedding the same way. It is not a competition with your sister or best friend. It is not about having the biggest, most expensive and elaborate celebration. It is about two hearts coming together as one.
When considering your budget, guest count makes all the difference. Invite those truly important to you two and your parents (do consider your parents in this). There is no need to have a guest count of 150+ if 75 of those on the list are just acquaintances.
Keep your venue search to a place within your budget and your taste. Just because your best friend rented the mansion on beach does not mean you have to. If that is what you like, can afford and a reflection of who you two are; absolutely, but do not do it just because someone else did.
The flowers, the dress, the food … all of it think before you spend. Why do we want this? If you can’t answer because this is what we want, but are feeling the pressure to do it even if self imposed DON’T!
Our previous two weddings were smaller and I have to say amazing! The guests, families, and of course bride and groom at each wedding had a wonderful time and couldn’t have been happier.
One the guest count was about 50 with a bridal party of 9. The venue was beautiful, food excellent, and even the stormy weather did not damper the party.
The other was an elopement package with only the bride and groom and 4 guests. Ceremony, cake, and champagne toasts then off in a limo to dinner. No fuss, no stress and bride and groom could not stop smiling!
I see too many couples stressed over the details and the cost of trying to have the ‘best wedding ever’. My opinion is your wedding is the best wedding ever for you two whether you have a budget of $50K or $10K. It is your wedding; you two beginning your lives together. My experience in this business has shown me while the dream of the expensive wedding is wonderful, the only thing that really matters is bride and groom surrounded my close family and friends saying ‘I do’.